I’m a 30 yr old divorced mother of 4 and have been since I was a teenager. I have been wanting to change my style for sometime now. I’m so scared of a dramatic change but i have has the same hairstyle and pretty much the same style when it comes to clothes too. It’s time for a change! Every time I’ve tried to change things up I just don’t feel like it suits me and I go back to my comfort zone which is plain t-shirts and jeans. I don’t have much sense when it comes to style so my question to you is how can I find that?! Sometimes I just want to get out on the town and WOW people. ~Casey
Hello Casey! I can relate to the feeling! I’ve always been experimental with my style, and it took me a LONNGG time to find my groove (long denim skirt with Green Eggs n Ham shirt , anyone? – facepalm)… sometimes I feel like I’m still trying to find it! The key for me is dressing for my mood. If you have limited options in your closet, maybe start by buying one key thing that you see in a magazine and like, but initially think, “I could never pull that off…”
It’s also important to know your body shape. For example, I have broad shoulders and a medium bust, a small waist and my hips are the widest part of my body below my shoulders. I do not wear ruffles on top unless the waist is clearly defined. I’ve tried. It’s a disaster. I also don’t wear Empire-waisted tops or dresses, which just make my entire body look as wide as my hips.
Try to make an assesment of what style icon or public figure best matches your body type and use them as a reference guide. This is actually giving me an idea for a blog post about finding your fashion muse! 🙂
My other recommendation is to start an inspiration board. When you see a look you like in a magazine or online, cut it out and paste it in your book/on your board. When you start to see a trend in the styles you like, you’ll feel more confident about knowing what you’re drawn to. And when it comes to your hair, remember IT WILL GROW BACK! Also… you get what you pay for. Do your research before a big cut/color. If you live within 2 hours of a big city– GO THERE and get it done in the city. There’s always a chance you’ll find someone amazing in a small town, but your odds go up when you put yourself in an environment of competition…where stylists HAVE to be really good in order to keep high-paying clients who expect perfection.
At the end of the day, however, new hair and fun clothes doesn’t make you feel like a new person… in fact they can amplify your insecurities if you start walking around thinking “I’m not cool enough to wear this… I look ridiculous”. The very, very first place to start is looking in the mirror and smiling. Remind yourself that you are the ONLY you on this planet. You are enough as you are, you have something to offer the world when you express yourself. And even if you DO look ridiculous (which you will at some point, so get over it), who cares? At least you’re being brave and trying. Brave is sexy. Brave is fun. Brave is WOW!